Infant Massage: Foundation for Healthy Beginnings

We all want what is best for our babies. As a Certified Educator of Infant Massage, I realized that the modality of infant massage, that has been around since the 1970’s and practiced in 70 countries, is not being utilized by the millions of parents here in the US. I think that may be because we don’t know it’s something that is accessible or even what it is.

I teach parents of infants 0-12 months massage techniques that can help support better sleep (for all of you), colic relief, communication, bonding, confidence in parenting, and much more! These techniques are taught over a 5 week course, once a week in classes lasting 60-90 minutes. The moves also grow and adapt as your child grows and adapts, so this is something that can continue for the rest of their lives. These are small, intimate classes where we discuss many parenting struggles, victories, and as a collective, support each other. I am a mom, and what a great resource to have at your fingertips! 

I am a massage therapist of over 18 years, specializing in prenatal and post natal massage. I know from years of experience, the more you get massaged, the more in tune with your body you are. Your babies will grow up to be more self aware, have more self esteem, and be more open to communicate with you. What a great gift to give to your child and to yourself! We always ask permission before we massage, so consent, safe touch, self esteem, and confidence are instilled right from the start. I truly believe that infant massage can change the world. 

Studies have found that not only moms, but dads and partners benefit greatly from these courses. A lot of times they can feel lost, out of touch when a new baby arrives. For them to spend a full 90 minutes just watching, bonding, listening to their baby can do wonders for their confidence and attachment to the newborn. Siblings also love to learn and be a part of the process. Infant massage has been a family/community tradition in many cultures for years. 

By including massage into your daily routine, you are supporting your family, your community, and your babies future. 

PostPartum Anxiety and Infant Massage

First off, I want to say, I am not a doctor, therapist, or mental health professional, however, I have had my own experiences postpartum anxiety. I can speak to those and what helped me. Hopefully, it can help you too.

Going through some things a few months ago, I came across a “sleep journal” that I had kept when my son was a baby. Inside were nights and nights of entries like, “Fed 15 minutes before, 8:00pm-11pm, swaddled with one arm out, one arm in, both legs out, not swaddled…..” Entry after entry, and I thought, this is a crazy person. I kept track of everything he ate, how he slept, checked on him every ten minutes. I was terrified of something happening to him and it was a feeling I always had with me. My poor husband, looking back, I was a mess. I also now know that I was surrounding my son with my anxiety and was setting his nervous system on fire too. Now, I know it’s completely normal to worry or be overwhelmed when you are a new parent, but this was obsessive. This is how my postpartum anxiety manifested.

Due to my anxiety, I developed what I like to call, “postpartum detachment.” It wasn’t depression, but it was on the spectrum, and I didn’t even know that was a thing. We are shown and told that it’s either all bliss or you want to drive off a cliff, there is no in between. I didn’t hold my child as much, take him out of his little chair as much, and I was overall detached from physical contact. Sure, we cuddled, and I breast fed, and I held him a lot, I just wasn’t quite sure what to do with him, so I often did nothing. It’s hard to write this, I love my son something fierce, but I struggled.

If you are struggling too, please know you are not alone and you are doing a great job mama! It is the hardest thing you will have to do, being a new mom and you are crushing it! Check in with yourself and be honest, are you struggling? Are you just craving an adult conversation? Parenthood is a funny thing, we ALL go through the same thing and yet we often feel isolated and alone. You are not alone.

Learning from my experiences to help others is why I do what I do. You are the reason I do what I do. There are many things that helped me and would have helped me. Text that friend today, reach out. Your tribe and support team around you are very important, don’t be afraid to reach out. Be honest with your feelings with someone you trust. You can write it out as well. Honestly, Infant Massage Classes would have really helped. I know that may seem self serving, but truly, these classes would have helped with everything I was going through.

Every week for 5 weeks, you spend 60-90 minutes just focusing on your baby and touching them in a safe, healthy way. Massage connects two people and deepens the connection between those two people. Massage reduces anxiety, helps encourage better sleep, helps regulate your fight or flight, not to mention the physical benefits. These courses help connect you to other adults as well and to interact with the community. Find friends going through the same thing, get recommendations to pediatricians, lessons, etc. Having a community to rely on is HUGE asset as a new parent!

These classes would have been an amazing resource and I didn’t even know it was a thing. This resource is available to you and I hope you take advantage! Learn how to massage your new baby and truly connect with them. You will grow more confident as a parent and create a connection that will last a life time.