I realized that the more I talk to women and mothers about infant massage, the more I realize that the partners are really who I need to be talking to. I often hear stories about how the they are nervous, not quite sure what to do with the new baby, wanting to help, but not quite sure how, even experiencing jealously. Having a new baby at home brings drastic change to the family’s surroundings, feelings, and emotions. I know I personally had a hard time “trusting” my husband to do things how I did them. I felt like he wasn’t doing things right and I am sure that fed his insecurity and self doubt about being a parent in the first place. I realize now how damaging that is and I had nothing to worry about, he is a great father, even if he can’t cook the oatmeal “correctly.”
Building a connection between father and child is beneficial for everyone. It builds a deep, trusting bond between the father and child and it also builds trust and confidence in the partner witnessing this relationship form. This connection and relationship is the driving force of why I teach infant massage to new parents. This time as a family, being intentional with the time together was exactly what my family needed after our son was born. As a dad, learning how to safely, lovingly massage your new baby, can help you communicate better, bond, and increase your confidence in being a parent. Your child will also create trusting, healthy attachments to you and that can help them grow up with higher self esteem and self awareness. Your partner will also appreciate the hour she gets to her self, lol.
Study after study shows the benefits of fathers learning and performing massage on their babies. To support partners this month and to celebrate Father’s Day, I am offering my 5 week Infant Massage Course at a 20% discount for dads and anyone who identifies as a father figure! Learn each week how to safely position your baby for massage, understand the needs of your baby better, learn massage techniques to help with colic, better sleep, and self soothing, while connecting with your baby on a deeper level. Register below!
First off, I want to say, I am not a doctor, therapist, or mental health professional, however, I have had my own experiences postpartum anxiety. I can speak to those and what helped me. Hopefully, it can help you too.
Going through some things a few months ago, I came across a “sleep journal” that I had kept when my son was a baby. Inside were nights and nights of entries like, “Fed 15 minutes before, 8:00pm-11pm, swaddled with one arm out, one arm in, both legs out, not swaddled…..” Entry after entry, and I thought, this is a crazy person. I kept track of everything he ate, how he slept, checked on him every ten minutes. I was terrified of something happening to him and it was a feeling I always had with me. My poor husband, looking back, I was a mess. I also now know that I was surrounding my son with my anxiety and was setting his nervous system on fire too. Now, I know it’s completely normal to worry or be overwhelmed when you are a new parent, but this was obsessive. This is how my postpartum anxiety manifested.
Due to my anxiety, I developed what I like to call, “postpartum detachment.” It wasn’t depression, but it was on the spectrum, and I didn’t even know that was a thing. We are shown and told that it’s either all bliss or you want to drive off a cliff, there is no in between. I didn’t hold my child as much, take him out of his little chair as much, and I was overall detached from physical contact. Sure, we cuddled, and I breast fed, and I held him a lot, I just wasn’t quite sure what to do with him, so I often did nothing. It’s hard to write this, I love my son something fierce, but I struggled.
If you are struggling too, please know you are not alone and you are doing a great job mama! It is the hardest thing you will have to do, being a new mom and you are crushing it! Check in with yourself and be honest, are you struggling? Are you just craving an adult conversation? Parenthood is a funny thing, we ALL go through the same thing and yet we often feel isolated and alone. You are not alone.
Learning from my experiences to help others is why I do what I do. You are the reason I do what I do. There are many things that helped me and would have helped me. Text that friend today, reach out. Your tribe and support team around you are very important, don’t be afraid to reach out. Be honest with your feelings with someone you trust. You can write it out as well. Honestly, Infant Massage Classes would have really helped. I know that may seem self serving, but truly, these classes would have helped with everything I was going through.
Every week for 5 weeks, you spend 60-90 minutes just focusing on your baby and touching them in a safe, healthy way. Massage connects two people and deepens the connection between those two people. Massage reduces anxiety, helps encourage better sleep, helps regulate your fight or flight, not to mention the physical benefits. These courses help connect you to other adults as well and to interact with the community. Find friends going through the same thing, get recommendations to pediatricians, lessons, etc. Having a community to rely on is HUGE asset as a new parent!
These classes would have been an amazing resource and I didn’t even know it was a thing. This resource is available to you and I hope you take advantage! Learn how to massage your new baby and truly connect with them. You will grow more confident as a parent and create a connection that will last a life time.
Sciatica is one of those conditions I see all the time as a massage therapist, and especially as a Prenatal Massage Therapist. It is very common, yet can be debilitating. Pain that radiates from your lower back and sometimes down into your feet. Legs can become weak and numb in some areas. Massage and Yoga can help loosen up the muscles, calm the inflammation, and help relieve the pain that you feel. Here is a quick 15 minute yoga routine specifically for sciatica. Schedule a massage with me, then do some yoga! Your muscles will be loosened up, circulation flowing, so you can get a deeper stretch.
Sleep is the foundation of our health, and I also know it can be quite elusive for up to 40 MILLION people! There are many reasons people suffer from sleep conditions: chronic pain, restless leg syndrome, sleep apnea, insomnia, having a baby, and many more. As a mom, I can relate to the lack of sleep that comes with being a parent. Wether it’s the night feeding, crying, or just the anxiety that keeps you up at night, it is exhausting and it’s not doing you or your family any good.
Lack of sleep has been linked to heart disease, diabetes, depression, self harm, and so many other health issues that can be prevented with a healthy lifestyle, which includes a healthy sleep life.
As a massage therapist, I know that getting a massage on a consistent basis can help with the quality and quantity of sleep! Massage releases Serotonin, which is a hormone necessary for the production of Melatonin. Massage also helps reduce stress, anxiety, pain, restless leg syndrome, and helps you relax. Guess what? This is also the same in babies!
Massage therapy is not just a frivolous thing you do on your vacation, it has proven health benefits for you and your baby. As an Infant Massage Educator, I teach parents/caregivers how to properly massage their infants to support bonding, communication, motor skills, colic relief, and better SLEEP, among literally one hundred more benefits.
I am a resource for you to take advantage of so you and your family can live healthy and happy lives full of Zzzzzzz’s. How empowering for a parent to help your child rest, and in turn, help you get the rest you need as well to be the best parent you can be.